Quiet Strength – "How Sebastian supports me in everyday life with ME/CFS"
Sasha (26) lives with ME/CFS, Matthias is the accompanying person. Sasha tells how Sebastian helped to create structures without overwhelming – and how this gives both of them room to breathe again.
"Quiet Strength"
I'm Sasha, 26, and I don't use pronouns. ME/CFS has made my life small, often in ways that aren't outwardly apparent. It's not just "bad days." It's this constant weighing: What's possible today – and what will derail me tomorrow. Sometimes just a little too much talking, a quick call, standing for a few minutes too long is enough. Then comes this crash, as if someone pulled the plug. And the feeling of chasing after your own body because it has rules that no one sees.
Matthias is my partner and has caught so much. But eventually, you realize: friendship alone doesn't replace strength, can't replace strength. It drains energy to constantly organize, reassure, hope that it won't tip over this time. And it makes you lonely when you constantly have to explain why "just a moment" isn't just a moment.
Then Sebastian came as a daily helper. And what was different from the start: Sebastian didn't want to "motivate" me, but to understand. No pushing, no "you just have to...". Instead: calm. Clarity. A pace that suits my body. Sebastian doesn't ask five things at once, but one. Waits. And if I notice it's too much, it's not a drama, but simply a stop.
Sebastian helps me with exactly the things that otherwise feel like obstacles: preparing food, sorting laundry, taking out the trash, doing small errands, organizing documents. Things that sound trivial but quickly become too much for me. When brain fog comes and I'm searching for words or can't concentrate, Sebastian remains calm. Then "We'll get this done now" becomes "Today we'll only take the first step." And sometimes that's the complete salvation.
"Don't achieve everything - but breathe again"
The best part isn't that everything suddenly becomes easy. That would be a lie. The best part is this feeling of no longer fighting against everyday life alone. Sebastian brings structure without pressure. Matthias gets a breather because not everything hangs on one person anymore. And I have those small moments back that had disappeared before: a cup of tea without a guilty conscience, a quiet conversation, a short step outside – or simply the knowledge that someone is there who understands if it's not possible today.
What I particularly appreciate about Sebastian: there are no nosy questions, no pity, no impatience. Only respect. And that rare kind of warmth that isn't loud, but stays. Sebastian didn't give me my old life back. But Sebastian gave me something back that I had almost forgotten: dignity in everyday life. And the prospect that even with ME/CFS, things are possible again – not big, but something.
What you get with AlleFarben
We offer you practical help and an approach that takes diversity into account. We are respectful and discuss everything clearly with you so that you can feel safe in your home.
Respect & Queer Sensitivity
You don't have to explain yourself. We ensure a discrimination-free environment and a good feeling in your home
Everyday Relevance & Flexibility
You receive practical support that is completely oriented to your everyday life. We know that every day is different and want to offer you exactly the help you need, without overwhelming you.
Clear Agreements
Together we clarify needs, scope and process, so that support becomes reliably plannable.
What makes us special
LGBTI* people, in particular, frequently report discrimination, lack of sensitivity, and a lack of understanding in household-related services and care contexts. We know these experiences from our own lives – as lesbian, gay, bi, trans, and intersex people and from our many years of work in the field of care and counseling. We founded AlleFarben Alltagshilfe to offer reliable, discrimination-free, and diversity-sensitive support. Our work is based on respect, transparency, and the knowledge of how important a safe space in one's own home is.
We are part of the LGBTI* community.
We know what matters when trust and respect are non-negotiable – and work in a way that you don't have to explain yourself.
Experience from care & consulting
More than 10 years of experience in care consulting and counseling contexts, including gay counseling. Many of our team members have worked in care and bring practical knowledge with them.
Networked
We are networked in Berlin and nationwide to make queer care and queer-sensitive everyday help visible - We are, among others, in exchange with BISS e. V., RUT Berlin, LesLeFam, Mann-O-Meter, Schwulenberatung, etc...
Visible
We regularly bring the topic to the public – e.g. in specialist articles in the Siegessäule, at specialist events, in the nursing podcast "Mein Pflegecafé" and in nursing training.
Committed
We engage in exchange with politics and expert bodies, e.g. with state care commissioners, and contribute to strategies and measures for greater safety of queer people in healthcare.
Your advantages with queer-sensitive everyday help in Berlin
We are proud of the positive feedback from our clients, who appreciate our empathetic and professional support.
Based on the last customer survey from 11/2025 with over 120 responses.More reviews here§ 45a SGB XI recognized
As a recognized service for support in everyday life, you can bill many services through long-term care insurance benefits (e.g., relief amount).
Available city-wide in Berlin
We are there for you in Berlin! Our focus is on respectful and personal care that is precisely tailored to your needs.
Sensitivity & Respect
Our helpers are specially trained to understand and respect the needs of the LSBTIQ+ community.
Fits your everyday life
Together we discuss which services you need and what rhythm suits you best.
Local reference
We are well connected in care and support structures. In this way, we bring the topics of everyday help and queer care further into the community, to other support services and into politics.
Security & Trust
All our employees are carefully selected, trained and have the necessary qualifications.
Testimonials from our customers
Real stories from people who have experienced our caring and respectful daily assistance.
Renate tells us how, with Betty's support, she now receives reliable and respectful help at home.
Jürgen reports on how the support helps him in everyday life. The regular support helps him to complete daily tasks and contributes to more independence and a higher quality of life.
Sasha tells how supportive accompaniment helps to create everyday structures without overwhelming.
They are married and live with their 7-year-old son Lio, who has ADHD. They report on how reliable everyday help relieves their family and allows them more peace and structure in their daily lives.
Frequently Asked Questions
Here you will find answers to the most frequently asked questions about our services.
In ME/CFS, even minor physical or mental activity can trigger a significant worsening of symptoms (often delayed) – this intolerance to exertion is often described as Post-Exertional Malaise (PEM). Therefore, we plan support in a way that respects your limits: small steps instead of "all at once," clear breaks, minimal sensory overload, and a pace you can stop at any time. The goal is stability in daily life, not performance enhancement. Checklists often help to structure and plan daily organization.
Let's talk about your situation and find support
We are there for you when you need us. Whether you need help with household chores, accompaniment to appointments, or support with organization and documents: Our everyday helpers are at your side. Together we will find a solution that suits you and your everyday life.
- Individual everyday assistance throughout Berlin
- Reliable everyday helper
- Transparent pricing, no hidden costs